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Hearing aids: Can they help us listen to ourselves?

July 6, 2011

The Buddha welcomed hearing aids into his life today.

Ever since we got the news a few weeks ago, he’d been surprisingly excited about them … especially for a kid who used to scream and cry whenever we came within 5 feet of him with earplugs for the pool. We give much of the credit to his aid-wearing best pal, whose family we thank profusely for paving the way for us.

I, on the other hand, wore my lack of enthusiasm on my sleeve when we got the news a few weeks ago. One more thing to remember each morning. (Organization is not my strong suit.) One more thing to keep clean. (Please don’t look inside our humidifier!) One more thing to decide whether or not to explain when children stare. (We first danced this dance with eye patches years ago.)

But after a day or two, I got sick of my own whining. After all, this wasn’t even about me. I thought, “Maybe I’m the one who needs hearing aids so I can clearly hear how annoying I sound?”

So I consciously changed my message from, “We just found out The Buddha has to get hearing aids” to “We just found out The Buddha could really benefit from hearing aids.” The change in just a few words completely shifted the energy of the delivery. The new version felt so much lighter, not weighed down by self-pity. It easily became a natural thing to say.

This morning, moments after the audiologist turned The Buddha’s hearing aids on, we asked him what he thought.

“I like them,” he said with a smile.

We asked whether he could hear better. “Yes!” he said. “I can!”

By late in the afternoon, his enthusiasm hadn’t waned. When he got off the bus from school, he was still liking them so much that he told his brother: “You should get hearing aids, too!”

“I don’t need hearing aids,” his brother responded. “I need listening aids.”

And that’s just a whole ‘nother post 😉


Coach’s Query

Put your imaginary hearing aids on and really listen to your words. Do you hear a negative message that you’ve been putting out there? How can you change it to make that message feel lighter?

  1. Hi Michelle,
    I love this beautiful post..on so many levels. Best wishes to you and your lovely family. Carole

    • Michelle Buzgon permalink

      Thank you for your kind words, Carole. I so appreciate your presence here.

  2. Laura permalink

    Michelle, this is a wonderful post that does really looks at how your perspective can change your attitude– you and both boys really demonstrated that.

    • Michelle Buzgon permalink

      Thanks, Laura. It is amazing how changing your perspective can change your whole, well, perspective 😉

  3. When you think about all the things your kids need or will need that you can’t provide, isn’t it a joy to find out there’s something Buddha needs that you *can* provide? You’re so lucky to have a kid who can remind you that getting what he needs is more important than how you’ll explain it to others (who don’t matter anyway.) Here’s a wish: I wish your kids will never need anything you can’t give them or they can’t give themselves.

    • Michelle Buzgon permalink

      I really appreciate this wish, Amy. It reminds me that the most important things I can provide my child are my love and my true presence.

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